Adoption - a legal proceeding that creates a parent-child relation between persons not related by 
blood; the adopted child is entitled to all privileges belonging to a natural child of the adoptive parents
blood; the adopted child is entitled to all privileges belonging to a natural child of the adoptive parents 
From a young age we are taught that when children are adopted they are brought into a safe, loving and PERMANENT enviroment. They are taken from a place of uncertainty from many different circumstanced and brought to a mom and dad who will be there forever. A place where they can finally feel safe and know that their journey to a forever family is over, they are finally home.
Unfortuatly, the people that tell you this fail to mention that sometimes these adoptions have a return policy. That after a certain amount of time these children can be returned to the province to start the adoption process over. One child in our class has had this happen to him. Twice.
Twice he was brought into a family.
Twice he met his new mom and dad.
And twice he was returned.
He is four years old.
And now we just learned he was about to be given to another family. Luckily the social worker took his case very slowly this time. They showed the family videos. They described him in great detail and then the perceptive parents decided against it. I am just happy he never even got to met this family.
I know he has his share of problems. He can throw an tantrum like nobody I have ever met, but he is so cute and innocent that even in the middle of the worst he can possibly give us my heart still melts. What these parents missed out on is his adorable smile that lights up the room when he sees us. They missed out on his spontanous hugs that seem impossibly strong coming from such a little guy. They missed out on his laugh when he is super surprised or happy or delighted. Nobody is there to see him dancing along to the music, singing at the top of his lungs, and doing all the actions so dramatically.
This little guy needs a forever home that has two stable and loving parents that can keep up with him. A family who can see past all of his faults and see to the potential he has.
I wish I could adopt him.
2 comments:
This post brought tears to my eyes. It happens to so many kids and is so sad. They treat them like clothes, like they can return them. So sad. Wish I have a stable home to give him. All the best with him. Just give him tons of love! It'll help!
Hey there! I just found your blog....and this post made me sigh. Because I hate it when adoptive parents assume that if things don't work out, they can just return the child. Like he or she is a pair of shoes, or something. Adam certainly came with his list of troubles. He still has some, too. But he is OUR SON. And, just like our other children, the "option" to "give him back" just....isn't an option. Adoption is (or should be....) FOR LIFE.
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